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Neurodivergent-Affirming Psychosexual & Relationship Psychotherapy

Welcome, I’m Justyna Kulczyk-Lewinska. I specialise in working with neurodivergent individuals and couples, people who have experienced trauma, and those navigating diverse sexualities, identities and relationship structures.

Being neurodivergent often means moving through the world with a heightened awareness, sensitivity, or way of processing that doesn’t always fit neatly into “typical” expectations.

Many of my clients come to therapy after a recent diagnosis or a growing recognition that they might be neurodivergent. Others have known for years, but are only now beginning to explore what that really means for who they are, how they connect, and how they live.

My work offers a space to unmask safely, to understand yourself more deeply, and to reclaim your voice and needs in life, relationships, and intimacy.

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Common themes we might explore

Neurodivergence can touch every part of our emotional and relational life. Together, we might explore:

  • Understanding a new or self-identified diagnosis (Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, dyslexia, etc.)

  • Exploring neurodivergent traits, strength and challenges: Sensory Profile Theory, Interoceptive awareness, Alexithymia, Empathy, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, Relational OCD, Executive Functioning, Cognitive Flexibility, Transitions & Control, PDA, Neurodivergence, gender & sexuality

  • Exploring identity and authenticity: Who am I when I’m not masking?

  • Healing from years of misunderstanding, shame, or burnout

  • Learning to communicate needs in relationships without fear of rejection (RSD, etc)

  • Navigating sensory sensitivities, emotional intensity, or shutdowns

  • Building self-compassion after experiences of exclusion or “too muchness”

  • Understanding the impact of trauma, rejection sensitivity, or perfectionism

  • Reframing self-criticism into self-acceptance and agency

  • And more, e.g. PDA, Relational OCD, OCD, …

These explorations aren’t about “fixing” you, they’re about helping you build a life and relationships that work for your neurotype, not against it.

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Neurodivergence, Intimacy & Relationships

Relationships and intimacy can be deeply fulfilling and also uniquely complex when you experience the world through a neurodivergent lens.

Many of my clients describe the push–pull of longing for closeness yet feeling overwhelmed, misunderstood, or disconnected when it comes to emotional or physical intimacy. For some, sensory sensitivities make touch difficult to navigate; for others, communication or executive-function challenges create tension or avoidance around sex and affection.

As a psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist, I help neurodivergent individuals, couples and diverse relationships make sense of how their neurological and sensory profiles shape their experience of desire, pleasure, and intimacy. Together we explore:

  • Understanding and expressing sexual needs and boundaries clearly and safely

  • Managing differences in desire, arousal, or sensory preferences

  • Healing from sexual shame, trauma, or past experiences of being misunderstood

  • Reconnecting after avoidance, shutdowns, or relationship burnout

  • Navigating communication, consent, and emotional regulation in moments of tension

  • Exploring diverse sexualities, orientations, and relationship structures (non-monogamy, kink, queer partnerships) within an affirming, informed space

  • Supporting ND–NT, ND-ND relationships, where differences in processing and expression can lead to misunderstanding around intimacy or affection

My aim is to create a therapeutic environment where you and/or your partner(s) can unmask safely, talk openly about sex and connection, and experiment with new ways of relating that feel authentic and nourishing.

Psychosexual therapy for neurodivergent clients is not about performance or “normalising” intimacy, it’s about discovering how you experience closeness, pleasure, and safety, and building relationships that honour that truth.

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Our approach

Our work is neurodivergent-affirming and trauma-informed.
I don’t see ND traits as problems to be fixed, but as part of the unique pattern of who you are.

In sessions, we bring a relational and integrative approach, combining psychosexual and relationship therapy with trauma work, identity exploration, and practical strategies for daily life.

Together, we’ll create a therapy space where:

  • You can be unmasked and accepted

  • Your pace, needs, and communication style are honoured

  • Your sensory and emotional world are respected

  • Curiosity replaces shame, and understanding replaces self-blame

When you’re not in a relationship

Not everyone who comes to relational therapy is in a relationship. Many neurodivergent clients come with a sense of loneliness, or a feeling that connecting dating, socialising, sustaining friendships, takes an extraordinary amount of effort.

In therapy, we can look at what’s behind that sense of isolation: social fatigue, fear of rejection, communication gaps, or simply a lifetime of being misunderstood.

You don’t have to keep trying to “fit in.” Together we can work towards creating a sense of belonging that starts from within, and flows into the connections you choose to build.

Both Lukasz and I are here to support you, whether you’re seeking individual or couple therapy, exploring new ways of relating, or simply wanting to understand yourself and your relationships on a deeper level.

Cultural Sensitivity

We understand that cultural, religious, and personal values can influence how ejaculation difficulties are experienced and discussed. Our approach is respectful of your beliefs and identity, providing support that honours what matters most to you while helping you find ways to feel more comfortable and fulfilled in your sexual life.

FAQs

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  • There’s often no single cause. It may be a mix of physical health, emotional wellbeing, stress, relationship factors, medication, or past experiences.

  • Absolutely not. Many people face challenges with ejaculation timing, and it’s a common issue with no shame attached.

  • Yes. Therapy can work alongside medical treatment to address emotional, psychological, and relational aspects that impact sexual function.

  • Yes. We encourage a holistic approach and can work alongside GPs, urologists, or other specialists as part of your care.

  • If ejaculation problems cause distress or affect your relationships, professional psychosexual therapy can provide tailored support beyond medical approaches.

  • Behavioral techniques such as the “stop-start” or “squeeze” methods, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), relaxation exercises, and sensate focus are commonly employed.

Get in touch.

Get in touch with a member of our professional team.
All enquiries are handled non-judgementally, confidentially and with the utmost sensitivity.

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